The Gift of Caregiving

Insightful stories for spouse caregivers of those with dementia.

…focusing on the challenges and struggles, successes and joys,
of one desperate caregiver caring for her loved one with
Alzheimer’s, anxiety and COPD.

Accepting the Gift of Caregiving series

Part One, Is There Any Ice Cream?
Part Two, Did You Hide the Cookies?

READ words from the book,
Is There Any Ice Cream?

HEAR words read from the book
Is There Any Ice Cream?

Peppered with humour, these stories are meant to inform and inspire caregivers, their families, and those looking for insight, encouragement and meaning!

Amid the chaotic life of a spouse-caregiver, discover an unintended story of love that emerged through words of hope, courage, reassurance, and understanding.


Sometimes a backstory makes all the difference in understanding when every word and every behaviour cannot be written into the pages.

SEE: “The Backstory,” the titles and the story, and a bit of fill-in for went before.

The stories in Is There Any Ice Cream? and Did You Hide the Cookies? tell of a senior whose life is thrown into confusion from the unexpected worries of caring for her partner diagnosed with COPD, Alzheimer’s disease and anxiety just months after their retirement.

Told with honesty and compassion, Shone shares intimate moments of events that happen in their day-to-day life.

Accounts of overwhelming challenges weave in evolving transformations that these diseases inflict on their relationship and that influence their lives and their love.

Shone reveals a life that exhausts her, drains her patience, tests her survival instincts and pulls at her heart strings.

In the end, it is an emerging gratefulness that revitalizes her confidence and eventually calms her despair and increases her devotion to her loved one, a love from which she draws strength to be courageous, to accept the gift of caregiving, as they face the unknown world of Alzheimer’s.

These books confirm that when caregivers begin to recognize signs and new behaviours, courage replaces anxiety.


Author Kurt Vonnegut must have been thinking of caregivers when he said:
“We have to continually be jumping off cliffs and developing our wings on the way down.”

Is There Any Ice Cream?
Surviving the Challenges of Caregiving for a Loved One with Alzheimer’s, Anxiety and COPD,
Accepting the Gift of Caregiving, Part One

It is a role where we learn on the job—making shared caregivers stories so important.

Did You Hide the Cookies?
Inescapable Heartaches of Caregiving for My Love with Alzheimer’s, Anxiety and COPD,
Accepting the Gift of Caregiving, Part Two

Read the chapter titles for the books to get a sense of the stories.

Available in eBook, and published with LARGER print in paperback and hardcover. Order from local booksellers or online from your favourite book provider.

Read comments from readers
on The Commentary page

Watch a YouTube Video

“A Conversation for Caregivers with Judy Shone.”
A Halton Hills Public Library production for Alzheimer’s Awareness Month –
See & hear the author speak with moderator, Danielle Arbour, Education Coordinator, from the Alzheimer Society Hamilton Halton.

“This is soooooo worth the listen! Totally “my story” thank you 🙏` ~ Linda Stock, Facebook comment.

YouTube video

Sometimes we like to hear the voice of the person who wrote the words. Listening helps me get a sense of that person’s tone, perhaps the personality and demeanor of the author. For me, it helps me feel I know them and when I read I hear their voice, a voice I am comfortable with. It is with that in mind that I direct you to the Halton Hills Public Library interview video, moderated by Education Coordinator for the Alzheimer Society Hamilton Halton, “A Conversation for Caregivers with Judy Shone.”

see also The Listening Room for text snippets read by the author.

You gain strength, courage, and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You are able to say to yourself, ‘I have lived through this horror. I can take the next thing that comes along.’ You must do that thing you think you cannot do.

Eleanor Roosevelt, You Learn By Living: Eleven Keys for a More Fulfilling Life

Caregivers will be able to draw their courage, strength and confidence from the well of caring experiences told by another caregiver who has withstood the whirlwinds and encountered the confusion and the darkness, of Alzheimer’s World, and who, eventually, worked out how to make it through. . .  doing that thing she thought she could not do.

Put your arms around your shoulders and squeeze…that’s a bear hug from me. -JAS

Annie B and Archie Bear are the source of bears and bear hugs associated with these books seen here, as well as on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram and LinkedIn.

When you see a bear, feel the hugs from Annie B and Archie and me!! 💕

Judith Allen Shone, caregiver, author


“Storytelling forges connections among people, and between people and ideas. Stories convey the culture, history, and values that unite people.” ~Vanessa Boris,

These two books, Accepting the Gift of Caregiving set, fill a need that has never been greater: providing, stories that will become the basis of a caregiver’s toolbox in years ahead.

The job is tiring, the road is bumpy and lonely. But when you know a little about what’s ahead, when you get a glimpse into the life of a caregiver for a loved one with Alzheimer’s, you begin to get a ‘feel for’ that world.

You will accompany the author in times of joy and times of uncertainty, from diagnosis to late stages of Alzheimer’s.

You will experience the empathy, compassion and respect that sparked the transformation of doubts and apprehensions that evolved into courage.

You will be part of routine settings, sit in classes, attend gatherings, visit in doctor and hospital appointments.

You will follow as she unveils the gratifying emotions of day-to-day activities, as well as the uneasy moments of anguish and heartache, as her stories validate the need for ongoing support in the world of caregiving

Yes, our lives will be different, but our emotions will feel so very much alike.

See the Commentary for review of the comments I have received related to the stories in these books.

You, too, will find understanding, learned from reading these caregiver books, that
will go a long way to help calm loved ones
and to feel reassured that caregivers are not alone.

Visit our sister blogsite for caregivers Accepting the Gift of Caregiving where caregivers encourage one another and learn through sharing:

Do something each day to make others smile and your heart sing.

THANK YOU for your kind words you leave on Amazon, that you send me in emails or texts or from contact page here. I appreciate them all!

ORDER stories that inspire and encourage caregivers from local booksellers, or online, including Amazon, – eBook – plus  ** Larger print **  in paperback and hardcover.
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The Gift of Caregiving© 2021 Judith Allen Shone

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