The Gift of Caregiving

Learn from experiences, told by a solo caregiver,
who, for 10 years, cared for one with
Alzheimer’s, COPD, vascular dementia and anxiety.

The thing about caregiving is…

… when you are climbing the steep caregiver learning curve, swamped by all that is required of you to observe, listen and learn quickly, you increasingly become desperate and feel the need…

for support,
for someone to talk to,
for reassurance that you are doing OK,
to not be alone.

It is then that you realize that information from other caregivers, that you did not know you would need, might be helpful.

It is unbelievable how fast that happens!

This author’s words offer the comfort of an outreached hand.

Grab hold.

You are in the right place! My site, “Caregiver-Challenges,” at, has been discontinued. Readers have been re-directed to my “Caregiver Book” site. Thank you for visiting.

Through her insightful stories
Judith Allen Shone focuses on
what a spouse-caregiver might expect as she shares
the challenges and struggles, successes and joys,
of caring for her loved one with Alzheimer’s, anxiety and COPD.

Peppered with humour, these stories are meant to inform and inspire caregivers, their families, and those looking for insight, encouragement and meaning!

Amid the chaotic life of a spouse-caregiver, discover an unintended story of love that emerged through words of hope, courage, reassurance, and understanding.


Accepting the Gift of Caregiving series

Part One, Is There Any Ice Cream?
Part Two, Did You Hide the Cookies?

Is There Any Ice Cream?
Surviving the Challenges of Caregiving for a Loved One with Alzheimer’s, Anxiety and COPD, Accepting the Gift of Caregiving, Part One

READ words from
Is There Any Ice Cream?

HEAR words read from
Is There Any Ice Cream?

Most caregiver angels I’ve met did not have a guide book or road map,
they became students of ‘how to’ while on the job.

That is exactly why shared caregiver stories are so important.
Author Kurt Vonnegut must have been thinking of caregivers when he said:
“We have to continually be jumping off cliffs and developing our wings on the way down.”

Did You Hide the Cookies?
Inescapable Heartaches of Caregiving for My Love with Alzheimer’s, Anxiety and COPD, Accepting the Gift of Caregiving, Part Two

READ the chapter titles
to sense the stories.

READ reader comments on The Commentary


Available in eBook, and published with LARGER print in paperback and hardcover. Order from local booksellers or online from your favourite book provider.


Sometimes a backstory makes all the difference in understanding when every word and every behaviour cannot be written into the pages.

SEE: “The Backstory,” the titles and the story, and a bit of fill-in for went before.

The stories in Is There Any Ice Cream? and Did You Hide the Cookies? tell of a senior whose life is thrown into confusion from the unexpected worries of caring for her partner diagnosed with COPD, Alzheimer’s disease and anxiety just months after their retirement.

Told with honesty and compassion, Shone shares intimate moments of events that happen in their day-to-day life.

Accounts of overwhelming challenges weave in evolving transformations that these diseases inflict on their relationship and that influence their lives and their love.

Shone reveals a life that exhausts her, drains her patience, tests her survival instincts and pulls at her heart strings.

In the end, it is an emerging gratefulness that revitalizes her confidence and eventually calms her despair and increases her devotion to her loved one, a love from which she draws strength to be courageous, to accept the gift of caregiving, as they face the unknown world of Alzheimer’s.

These books confirm that when caregivers begin to recognize signs and new behaviours, courage replaces anxiety.

THE VIDEO: Watch and Listen…

In discussion with author, Judith Allen Shone, moderated by Danielle Arbour, Education Coordinator from Alzheimer Society Hamilton Halton.

see also The Listening Room for text snippets from the books read by the author.

This is soooooo worth the listen! Totally “my story” thank you 🙏`
~ Linda Stock, Facebook comment.

You gain strength, courage, and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You are able to say to yourself, ‘I have lived through this horror. I can take the next thing that comes along.’ You must do that thing you think you cannot do.

Eleanor Roosevelt, You Learn By Living: Eleven Keys for a More Fulfilling Life

Caregivers will be able to draw their courage, strength and confidence from the well of caring experiences told by another caregiver who has withstood the whirlwinds and encountered the confusion and the darkness, of Alzheimer’s World, and who, eventually, worked out how to make it through. . .  doing that thing she thought she could not do.

Authors depend on reviews and comments from other readers to help new readers decide if the book is a match to what they are searching for. It explains what the reader found important. I’d be grateful for any comments left on Amazon or the online site where you purchased my books. See examples of comments I have received personally. Thank you so much.


“Storytelling forges connections among people, and between people and ideas. Stories convey the culture, history, and values that unite people.” ~Vanessa Boris,

These two books, the Accepting the Gift of Caregiving set, fill a need that has never been greater: providing, emotional stories that should be included in the caregiver’s toolbox along with their growing ‘to do’ lists, in years ahead.

The job is tiring, the road is bumpy and lonely. But when you know a little about what’s ahead, when you get a glimpse into the life of a caregiver for a loved one with Alzheimer’s, you begin to get a ‘feel for’ that world.

You will accompany the author in times of joy and times of uncertainty, from diagnosis to late stages of Alzheimer’s.

You will experience the empathy, compassion and respect that sparked the transformation of doubts and apprehensions that evolved into courage.

You will be part of routine settings, sit in classes, attend gatherings, visit in doctor and hospital appointments.

You will follow as she unveils the gratifying emotions of day-to-day activities, as well as the uneasy moments of anguish and heartache, as her stories validate the need for ongoing support in the world of caregiving

Yes, our lives will be different, but our emotions will feel so very much alike.

Put your arms around your shoulders and squeeze…that’s a bear hug from me. -JAS

Annie B and Archie Bear are the source of bears and bear hugs associated with these books seen here, as well as on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram and LinkedIn.

When you see a bear, feel the hugs from Annie B and Archie and me!! 💕

Judith Allen Shone, caregiver, author

Visit our sister blogsite for caregivers Accepting the Gift of Caregiving where caregivers encourage one another and learn through sharing:

Each day, do something to make others smile and your heart sing.

THANK YOU for your kind words you leave on Amazon, that you send me in emails or texts or from contact page here. I appreciate them all!

ORDER stories that inspire and encourage caregivers from local booksellers, or online, including Amazon, – eBook – plus  ** Larger print **  in paperback and hardcover.
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Visit Caregiver Challenges (caregiveralzheimerstory) website for more book information.

The Gift of Caregiving© Judith Allen Shone 2019-2023

2 thoughts on “The Gift of Caregiving

  1. Thank you, Natalie, for your kind words. When my journey began in 2011 I had no idea about where I was headed, no role model, no clue as to the life before us. I wrote these books, stories, for those who might feel alone, as I did, to be my hand reaching out now to help others, especially since now I know connections are so important! I wish you friendship and connection on your journey.


  2. I have read your books and shared them with another caregiver, who also was glad she read them. I hope you will write the last of your story.
    Your words made me feel like we were friends, that I knew you, as I read things that I had gone through, too. Thank you for writing your stories.


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